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February 16 2017

HisSecretObsession2

Obsession - Are you currently Driving Yourself and Your Friends Crazy?


His Secret Obsession
People have addictions which seem incomprehensible to individuals who don't
have those addictions. Take gambling for example; non gamblers just don'
t understand how or why someone would spend every available opportunity
to sit down inside a casino and willingly dispose of all their money. From some other
notice looks like unbelievable stupidity. It seems to become a boring, repetitious
and frustrating hobby at best. On a logical level we wonder why those
people haven't exercised that 'the house always wins'. The gambler loves
to bop around and brag about the times he did win despite the fact that all of us see
that the final outcome is that he doesn't have home, no money staying with you and a
huge unsecured debt. Yet, on the small winning streak he is able to be completely
oblivious for this fact. Without analyzing all of the complexities of a gambling
addiction, we can summarize it as this: The gamblers belief in winning the large
one is more than his belief within the reality of what has happened, what's
happening and what will predictably happen. In a nutshell, the dream is much more
real than the reality.

His Secret Obsession
The same can probably be said for drugs, alcohol, food, cigarettes, sex and all sorts of
addictions. The reality of an addicts life might be sheer devastation but
the belief that one more of whatever will be what the dream expects itself to
be.

Surely that a dream can hook into a compartment within the mind
and be completely embedded. It is just like a sacred place and it contains
all we would like. It may be wealth, happiness, love, security or whatever. We
have the ability to desires and we all have dreams so we have the ability to a location in out minds
by which we live those possibilities. The gambler may have originally
had a dream of a large win. He probably had a handful of good wins initially
and that reinforced the dream. Somehow though, the gambler became
hooked on the dream. The large win turns into a primary reference point
as well as in time all experiences loop back to that time of reference. That's, all
information and every experience gets filtered through the reference point.
Some refer to this as classic denial. I refer to it as 'The happy place'.

It appears impossible to talk logic or facts for an addict. They filter out what
you say; they may make believe you listen, or they argue along with you or blank you
out completely. Their eyes glaze over, their ears shut you out and you can
almost hear them singing lah, lah lah as you speak. They have attended the
happy place.

This might be familiar to those who have had a relationship with someone
with one of these major addictions. What's less obvious is that most of us
are operating within very similar pattern - and that is: Obsession.

Obsessions could be hidden or often seem harmless or even a little quirky.
Another person's obsession may be boring to all of us, but we do not pay much
attention once we are rarely affected by these to any real degree. Many of us
don't know that we are obsessed. Yes, everybody has their little happy
places so we all filter facts to suit our delusions. But, for a lot of of us, we
are destroying our way of life or at least our potential lives.

Don't be the product, buy the product!

Schweinderl